Silicon Valley’s latest gold rush is for husbands — specifically husbands who work in AI.

Chinese and Chinese American women are flocking to Silicon Valley from across the country and around the globe with the aim of landing a husband who works in AI.

“The first tier is Anthropic and OpenAI,” said Qinghua Zhao, founder of 2RedBeans, which bills itself as the largest Chinese dating site in North America. “If you’re at one of those big companies, especially the AI ones, it’s obvious they’ll be huge the moment they go public.”

Singles mingle at a 2RedBeans mixer in Silicon Valley. Founder Qinghua Zhao says AI engineers now top some women’s wish lists. Courtesy of 2RedBeans

Zhao, who founded 2RedBeans — whose name symbolize love and longing in Chinese culture — 15 years ago, said clients’ wish lists have become more specific. Her Chinese clients used to just say they wanted to find someone on America’s East or West Coast. But, in recent years, they’ve gotten increasingly particular.

Qinghua Zhao founded 2RedBeans 15 years ago to help Chinese singles in North America find love.

“More are specifying Silicon Valley,” she said. “And within Silicon Valley, they used to look for engineers in general. Now they’re more explicit: AI engineers are their first choice.”

Amy Yang, a former tax analyst at Oracle who now runs “Matchmaker Amy,” a Bay Area-based matchmaking business, has noticed a similar trend.

“It’s very common,” she told the Post. “The women who move here from out of town all want an engineer … [and] AI, of course, is better.”

Bay Area matchmaker Amy Yang says Chinese women fly in every week looking for a partner

One Los Angeles client was considering a six-month stay in San Francisco specifically because OpenAI and other AI companies are there, Yang said.

Meanwhile, Sue Zhong, 34, came to the US from China at 16 and later worked in her family’s marine-fuel business. After living in New York, she moved to LA last year.

Entrepreneur Sue Zhong, 34, hopes to meet a like-minded partner and is curious about AI founders changing the world. Courtesy of Sue Zhong

She said she consulted several matchmakers, including Yang, whose package costs $1,500 for three introductions, to help her find a like-minded partner.

“I think there are people [in Silicon Valley] who want to change the world,” she said. “I find that interesting.”

However, she added that spiritual connection and chemistry trump any checklist and are far more important to her than net worth. 

On the flip side, a divorced Chinese businesswoman in her 40s, who asked to remain anonymous, told The Post snaring a man in AI is a smart investment.

“For me, marriage now is a restructuring of assets,” said the woman.

While she and her son from her first marriage are currently in China, she plans to settle in Silicon Valley.

“For someone like me, I definitely have to find someone whose future I can see,” she said. “I don’t mind helping him grow, but there’s risk in that process.”

She’s especially interested in men at AI companies preparing to go public.

Anthropic is reportedly targeting a mid-November IPO, with a potential valuation above $2 trillion. OpenAI remains private but has already delivered life-changing windfalls. More than 600 current and former employees sold $6.6 billion worth of shares in October 2025, with roughly 75 cashing out $30 million each.

Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei, center left, with Salesforce CEO Marc Benioff at Dreamforce in San Francisco. Matchmaker Qinghua Zhao ranks Anthropic and OpenAI men in the “first tier.” Getty Images

That’s the sort of wealth she’s aiming for.

Sue Zhong, 34, is ready to travel from LA to Silicon Valley to meet a potential husband. Courtesy of Sue Zhong

“A man on a salary doesn’t have much left after tax. I’ve been through the whole system,” she said. “Unless, he’s a senior CEO or someone in that higher-income group.”

Landing a man with a promising stock package, however, takes more than a plane ticket.

“Especially in tech, many people go straight from school into a company. Their colleagues and friends tend to have similar backgrounds,” said Yang. “They’re busy with work, have limited time to socialize, and aren’t necessarily used to approaching strangers.”

To find AI guys for her clients, Zhao starts with 2RedBeans’ database, then asks friends at big tech companies for referrals.

Attendees gather at OpenAI’s DevDay conference in San Francisco in 2026. Matchmakers say men at the company are prized marriage prospects. AP Photo/Jeff Chiu

Yang also recruits beyond her existing clients, tapping friends, former clients, industry contacts and fellow matchmakers to find suitable men.

Zhao notes that many of these men aren’t known for their dating abilities.

“They have had more training in technical things and logic, and less in emotions,” she said. “The thing about the crowd gathered in Silicon Valley is their IQ is very high and their EQ, not necessarily.

A couple holds hands at a café. One businesswoman hoping to settle in Silicon Valley describes marriage as “a restructuring of assets.” Stock photo. AntonioDiaz – stock.adobe.com

“Their thinking is simple. They want someone who understands them and is warm.”

Yang believes that successful men in AI demand a partner who has a career of her own.

“Even if he’s an AI scientist, he wants her to have at least a bachelor’s degree and a stable job in the Bay Area,” she said.

Singles meet face to face at a 2RedBeans speed-dating dinner in Silicon Valley. Courtesy of 2RedBeans

And, Zhao noted, with success comes higher expectations.

“If his own net worth has gone up,” she said, “then of course he wants someone a bit prettier.”